We are all human and we all need encouragement. I want to lift your spirits, put a little more pep in your step and encourage you to conquer your dreams. Hopefully something I post will spark that match and ignite that flame within you! That I can help you reach your potential and discover your purpose. I hope I can give you an extra boost or jumpstart in the right direction. So you can discover your strengths and realize you are stronger than you know. You can do hard things! Let this inspire you to do what you love. If you aren’t already, find something else that brings you joy. Life is too short to be unhappy!
It’s been hard… to say the least. I have kept this to myself for a long time.I am a very private person. I always have been.
I NEVER wanted to make this information public. I didn’t want anyone to know. To me it was admitting imperfection, failure, orinadequacy.
I hate when people complain! Especially, when they do it solely to seek attention.Which is why I’ve never mentioned my infertility before.
This message wasn’t planned out or premeditated. It is spontaneous and heartfelt. Up until last year I hadn’t told anyone, except my own mother.
So why now? Why am I telling you?
My objective isn’t to seek commiseration or sympathy for my current situation. Instead, I want to raise awareness. I want to help someone in need!
older I get, the more I just want to assist, uplift and strengthen those around
But we don’t have to be…We can choose to be kind. We can choose to make a difference.
importantly… a difference for the better!
who have successfully conceived with or without trying, tend to look down on,
judge or assume too quickly… That couples without children, are too invested in
their careers, don’t want children or are too self-centered or selfish to have
first inquiry is always, “When are you going to start trying?
and I have been married for 7 years, this May. We have been on the receiving
end, of all of these questions and harsh assumptions.
I’ve heard people whisper, “She only care about her figure.” Little do they know I work out in hopes to improve my fertile health.
I’ve been told “You don’t have enough faith.” Little do they know I go to church every Sunday.
Others have given me ultimatums or deadlines. Little do they know, over 50% of my family struggles with infertility.
I have even been told: “You are too old to have kids. If you do have any, you will only be able to have 1 or 2.” Little do they know I would be beyond happy, to be blessed with just one!
individuals have made me feel guilty for something I cannot control.
them I say… How sad!
Not because of my current situation or set of circumstances. But because they are so negative. When they could have bit their tongue and said nothing, they chose to be judgmental and coarse.
It is difficult for everyone! No one is exempt from tribulation. Life is challenging without others hurtful assumptions and comments.
is nothing noble or impressive about being cynical. Skepticism is easy. Anyone
can do it!” – Dieter F. Uchtdorf
I prefer to be optimistic. I choose to be kind. I enjoy looking for the good in others. I assume the best and doubt the bad.
The reason I decided to voluntarily share this with you, was to buoy up those who might be struggling. I feel prompted to share my story…
individuals or couples like us, who can’t have children.
who have been judged unfairly.
who are heartbroken.
who have lost a loved one.
who are struggling with addiction.
who are suffering from an illness.
those experiencing pain from the consequence of a personal choice.
who has been dealt a difficult hand.
you are infertile or not, I know you are going through something hard!
I know you need encouragement. We all need encouragement!
So, my encouragement it this…
Be strong. Your circumstances do not limit you. Your trials are there to test you. Which will hopefully make you stronger! What can you learn from this adversity?
listen. Don’t listen to the unbeliever, cynic or pessimist. That includes
don’t sink because of the water around them. Ships sink because the water that gets
in them. Don’t let what’s happening around, you get inside your head and weigh
positive. Think happy thoughts! Positive thoughts about others,
yourself and your circumstances. A bad attitude it like a flat tire, you can’t
get very far until you change it!
kind. You aren’t the only one struggling! Find ways to serve
someone else. Through service for others, we often realize our circumstances
aren’t as bad as they seem.
you see a happy person, don’t assume their life is perfect. Perhaps they have
chosen to be cheerful in spite of terrible trials.” – Hank R. Smith
I have made mistakes. I am far from perfect. I have bad days and I let water in my boat. But I don’t have to let it weigh me down and I certainly don’t let it sink me!
I choose to be happy. I can choose to have hope!
Life isn’t fair, others can be cruel, and you may not get what you want out of life…
you can be the hope someone is seeking. You
can make a difference in someone else’s life!
you help another up a mountain, you are a little nearer to the top yourself.” –
Thomas S. Monson
when troubles arise, remember this…
for a while the harder you try, the harder it gets, take heart! So it has been
with the best people who ever lived.” – Jeffery R Holland
are NOT alone. Jesus not only bore the pains of all
our sins and transgressions… but also our infirmities. He knows exactlyhow
and what you are feeling. Rely on him for
spiritual and physical strength!
is no physical pain, no spiritual wound, no anguish of soul or heartache, no
infirmity or weakness you or I ever confront in mortality that the Savior did
not experience first. In a moment of weakness, we may cry out, ‘No one knows
what it is like. No one understands!’ But the Son of God knows and understands perfectly,
for He has felt and borne our individual burdens.” – David A. Bednar
in yourself. Faith in others. Faith in your own personal strength. Faith in
what is to come…
have faith in my Savior, Jesus Christ! Because of His sacrifice for man, I have
found peace. I know God has given me certain trials in life, to see how I choose
to react… Will I allow it to make me bitter, negative or become pessimistic?
Or will I choose
to have faith, hope and joy no matter the outcome? Will I lift others up or
drag them down?
joy we feel has little to do with the circumstances of our lives and everything
to do with the focus
of our lives.” – Russel M. Nelson
is the focus of your life?
I choose joy, kindness, and hope for my future.
will you choose?
hope having shared my story, brings peace to someone else. Feel free to share
this post with others. If you too are struggle with infertility, I encourage
you to share your personal story. We are stronger together. You are not alone! Your
story just might be the hope someone else is looking for.
Happy Fact: “People who train their brains to think more positively, are not just happier but have stronger immune systems, are more productive, live longer and let’s face it… are just more fun to be around!” 😊
– Live Happy Magazine
Who keeps a journal?
🙋🏻♀️ I love journaling and have so for the past 10 years!
Has it really been that long? 😳
Life’s difficulties can make us weary, causing us to be negative or get upset.
“A bad attitude is like a flat tire. You can’t go anywhere until you change it.”
Journaling is a great way to remember the good, in the midst of the bad!
Choosing to be grateful for the things you do have, instead of what you don’t. Where you were once uncomfortably stretched outside of your comfort zone, looking back you realize are much stronger because of it!
If you are struggling or you feel weighed down, try journaling! If you don’t have much to say start with a gratitude journal.
Write down 3 good things, that happen each day, will lift your spirits and brighten each day. You will certainly find something to smile about!
I love this gratitude journal, I received from Corso.com. Especially, their motto to “Live Happy”. A reminder to each of us, that life is worth living, even in the midst of tribulations!